I'll start with the question . . . why does anyone purposely make someone else feel insecure? Why would you purposely answer questions in a manner that you know is not what the person doing the asking wants to hear regardless of what your honest answer would be? . . . and yes I'm talking to the guys about talking to girls . . . I'd give examples, but individual examples couldn't grasp the bigger picture . . . it's a purposeful intentional thing to not tell somebody what they want to hear . . .
. . . does it all just go back to the elementary school playground where somehow the boys thought that chasing you around the playground and pushing you down . . . actually hurting you . . . that somehow skinned knees and bruised elbows would make them appear more endearing to you . . . somehow said they cared? Well . . . back then it didn't make most girls think they were liked . . . in fact the total opposite . . . and now that we're all older, and it turns psychological, it really doesn't make a girl feel all warm and fuzzy . . . just like as an adult being
poked in the ribs and shoved off sidewalks and stuff still has to be balanced out with tenderness . . . skinned knees and bruised elbows are not a sign of affection . . . no matter how much our male counter-parts seem to think they are . . .
. . . . I can't imagine being single in today's world . . . what I've watched my single friends go through (both girls and guys) . . . but everyone has been burned so much, guards are so heightened, that everyone is afraid to say how they really feel about anybody, about anything . . . I think girls in general tend to be more insecure than guys, more in need of reassurance, more in danger of being knocked down to the point that they don't think they can ever be worth anything to anyone, and just shut down and stop trying . . . girls need to know that they're more than just sex (but still wanted), need to know they're beautiful (or at least that someone thinks they are), need to feel that it's okay to be vulnerable to let her guards down, to find someone she can cry in front of, someone that's willing to let their guards down, to cry in front of her, to know that someone wants to spend time with you as much as possible, every waking minute in some cases, that actually would sit around and wait for hours for just a few minutes of attention, girls need guys in their lives that are willing to just cuddle sometimes, and to use their words for reassurances and tender words that show they care (not that playful isn't okay, because it is, but not to the point that you're knocking someone down), a girl needs someone who believes in her, who believes in her dreams, who gives her wings when she wants to fly, and yes, we do still appreciate a guy who can open a car door, a guy who can give you his jacket when you're cold . . . we, the girls, do not need skinned knees and bruised elbows, that as an adult translates into nothing but insecurity, bad feelings and broken hearts . . .
. . . does it all just go back to the elementary school playground where somehow the boys thought that chasing you around the playground and pushing you down . . . actually hurting you . . . that somehow skinned knees and bruised elbows would make them appear more endearing to you . . . somehow said they cared? Well . . . back then it didn't make most girls think they were liked . . . in fact the total opposite . . . and now that we're all older, and it turns psychological, it really doesn't make a girl feel all warm and fuzzy . . . just like as an adult being
poked in the ribs and shoved off sidewalks and stuff still has to be balanced out with tenderness . . . skinned knees and bruised elbows are not a sign of affection . . . no matter how much our male counter-parts seem to think they are . . .
. . . . I can't imagine being single in today's world . . . what I've watched my single friends go through (both girls and guys) . . . but everyone has been burned so much, guards are so heightened, that everyone is afraid to say how they really feel about anybody, about anything . . . I think girls in general tend to be more insecure than guys, more in need of reassurance, more in danger of being knocked down to the point that they don't think they can ever be worth anything to anyone, and just shut down and stop trying . . . girls need to know that they're more than just sex (but still wanted), need to know they're beautiful (or at least that someone thinks they are), need to feel that it's okay to be vulnerable to let her guards down, to find someone she can cry in front of, someone that's willing to let their guards down, to cry in front of her, to know that someone wants to spend time with you as much as possible, every waking minute in some cases, that actually would sit around and wait for hours for just a few minutes of attention, girls need guys in their lives that are willing to just cuddle sometimes, and to use their words for reassurances and tender words that show they care (not that playful isn't okay, because it is, but not to the point that you're knocking someone down), a girl needs someone who believes in her, who believes in her dreams, who gives her wings when she wants to fly, and yes, we do still appreciate a guy who can open a car door, a guy who can give you his jacket when you're cold . . . we, the girls, do not need skinned knees and bruised elbows, that as an adult translates into nothing but insecurity, bad feelings and broken hearts . . .
