I Moved ....

I decided to take my blog to a more anonymous venue so that I don't have to censor myself so much ... because of the anonymity I'm not going to post my new blog address ... but if you write me at diaryofagamergirl@yahoo.com most of you will be given the new address :) ...

Unfounded Resentment ...

So, I have had an issue for a while now with my mom ... I live with her ... long story if you haven't been following ... and just today my boyfriend had a similar issue with another relative ...

People around us have started building resentments for things that they take on themselves ... in my case ... one example is how my mom always cooks breakfast every morning ... nobody ever asked her to do it ... in fact when I first moved in many times I was on my way to do it and she already was ... then one of two things happens every now and then ... the first is that out of nowhere she blows up at me about how I "never" do breakfast and how I am not pulling my weight ... the second is that one morning she just doesn't do it, but doesn't tell me she isn't going to and then it causes issues ...

In my case, what needs to be understood is that I have been living without a parent for eleven years ... and a mom for almost as long ... I know how to do things like make breakfast ... but

The Two Things We're Not Supposed to Talk About ... Politics & Religion ... Oops ...

Okay ... so the two topics one should never discuss with other people if you want to remain in their social graces ... I am about to tackle ... what can I say ... apparently I need to put it out there ...

The only two things that I know for a fact ... that I'm 100% sure about ... is that not one person who reads this will 100% agree with me ... and not one person who reads this will 100% disagree with me ... because ... well ... I play both major sides on both of these topics ...

So ... I guess I will start with religion because it will lead into politics better than the other way around ... first and foremost I am for the separation of church and state ... I believe that while moral compasses may be guided by religion and a moral compass plays a role in politics, that a separation still needs to exist ...

My background ... I am a cradle Lutheran ... baptized, confirmed, married, and all three of my children baptized in the ELCA church ... that would be the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America ... for those of you unfamiliar with the Lutheran Church ... they are not all alike ... there are four major "branches" of the Lutheran church ... and others that are smaller ... the main other branch that I'll be referring to here is the LCMS church (Lutheran Church Missouri Synod) as they are the next largest branch of the Lutheran Church ...

So ... when I say was confirmed in the ELCA Lutheran Church ... this does not mean the same thing that it does in many other churches ... in many churches confirmation means that you learn about the church and their history, you learn about their beliefs ... and then you say "yes, I believe what you believe" in front of the whole congregation ... oh happy day ... that isn't what it's like to be confirmed in the ELCA ... in the ELCA we were encouraged to learn about

Defending What is Right ...

So, sometimes in life we must face decisions that we don't want to face ... sometimes it becomes a struggle between doing what is right and doing what is easy ... and sometimes doing what is right hurts people we care about ... even though we don't want it to ...

An example ... a kid is being bullied at school and tells his mom ... mom calls the teacher and tries to get it all straightened out ... then her son is subjected to more ridicule from more people because he is now a "mama's boy" that needs his mom to fight his fights for him ... the bullying gets worse ... but I believe just because the right action elicited the wrong response, that the right action still has to be taken ...

For the last few months I have been struggling with this ... knowing that if I did the right thing

Giving the Best of Ourselves to Everyone Else ... and the Worst to Those we Love the Most ....

This is either a subject people know about and understand or they don't ... at least to start with ... but maybe those that don't will understand ... at least a little ... after reading this ....

My father was an amazing citizen ... he volunteered as an EMT ... he was on the Search and Rescue Team ... he was even a State Coordinator for the Search and Rescue Team ... he was social, outgoing and even charming to most of the world ... but at home he was reclusive and closed off ... he gave the best of himself to everyone outside of his family ...

I have had friends have experience with this lately ... and I have experienced it myself ... someone is sweet and charming and funny with the rest of the world ... they maintain their temper ... but then when they are around the people that are "closest" to them ... the people that care about them the most ... they turn into almost an entirely different person ...

I've seen touchy-feely people that out in public are touching and hugging everyone around ... go home and not touch their spouse/partner for hours even days after ... I've known people